"The reality is you have to take things the way they are, not the way you want them to be," says Dr. Jim A. Talley. "You have to face the fact that if you're single and you're divorced, you really are single and divorced." You may not want to be single, but reality does not cater to a person's desires.
This is my reality. I've struggled and lamented over it for months. But with the awakening of spring, it seems my acceptance has also bloomed. I have embraced being single and begun to see the positive aspects of it. Things happen that we can't control and life is almost never as we truly want it to be. It doesn't matter how badly we yearn for things to be different, ultimately we can't will a situation to come about.
I have learned that when life spirals out of control, instead of getting dizzy I find a focal point. If I focus on that, I avoid the fallout that happens after the spiral comes to a stop. Then I can begin to see the wonderful things in life and ignore the bad. When I begin to count my blessings and see my reality as God's gift, then I find acceptance much more obtainable.
Even the spiral itself is a blessing because the experience helps us down the road somehow.
The challenge is being happy in the middle of it or bold enough to change the way we think about it. One of God's greatest blessings is the ability to accomplish that.
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