Right to be right

Joyce Meyer always seems to be talking directly to me. One of her latest Facebook posts still has my mind turning -

"When you walk in love, you give up your right to be right."

Wow. My right to be right. How long have I been clinging to that one? Seems I'm always right, right? I'm always justified in my feelings. I always have a valid reason for what I do. I will go to great lengths to show someone my view - try to make them understand where I'm coming from - prove that I know what I'm talking about.

But I'm learning as I go that nobody is right. And it really doesn't matter if I'm right or wrong. In fact, being wrong can be a good thing because it brings about new ways of looking at things and more effective life lessons. When we realize we are wrong, we change and grow.

It's not in being correct or error free that we are rewarded. It's our intent that eventually determines how much we gain from a relationship or situation. If we are self seeking when we act, we won't find fulfillment. It's only when we begin to act out of genuine care and love for others that we feel true reward. If we truly care for others, then being right comes secondary. Our primary goal is to nurture, protect and cherish them. We begin to put their emotional needs ahead of our own and therefore find our quest to be right can often be thrown out the window.....

However - there are always those times in our relationships where we begin to disagree. Or maybe we just have issues for which we find no compromise. Perhaps those are times where finding a solution is not the best use of our time. Some things are simply not fixable. And maybe that's where we must choose to walk in love and put our quest to be Queen of Correct aside. We don't have to prove our point. We don't have to know the answer. And we don't even have to eat crow and admit we're wrong. At these times, maybe we should just shift focus to what's important and that's our love for each other. Accept each other as we are and not on each others terms. Let go of our right to be right.

I find it ironic that the only One who really has the right to be right is also the only One who is capable of true love. When there is no solution and I find I'm completely incapable of being right, I go to Him. I trust Him with my quest for perfection. He pretty much summed up that the only way to be right is to learn how to love. He not only points that out time and time again in His word but also lived it and died for it. While I know I'll never completely grasp love's true meaning, I still search for it and try to understand it - for it is the only way to be right.

Which also reminds me of some silly 70's song lyrics ----
"If loving you is wrong, I don't wanna be right"
Perhaps Joyce has been listening to some retro Cd's :)